God keeping me humble

I have always said that God gave me H3 to keep me humble. Just when I think I know what I am doing parenting wise - he throws me a curve ball.

I have over the last few weeks read about kids having a hard time transitioning to preschool. H3 has always loved school, going new places, transitioned into the non parenting time of the class smoothly (I mean I am sure there was a day and here and there that were hard) but 95% of the time - she has loved it. I just didn't relate.

I also teach this age swimming, so I often have had to gently remove a screaming child from a parent's arms. I would be gentle and firm with them and they enjoy the class and learn to swim. For some, it takes 2 weeks, others, it takes 12 - you never know. I always tell parents to trust me. That I will get them if it is bad.

But how sensitive am I really being? I didn't really relate to the hard transitions.

Now, H3 is having an awful time at preschool. Do I keep bringing her and get her past the transition? If I follow what I preach in swimming, I would be loving and help her get past this and do it in such a way that would foster her confidence. Or do I just pull her? Last Wed was bad, I didn't take her on Friday, Monday I had a personal meeting with her teacher, it went OK when I left, and today (Wed) it was really hard.

The only other place she didn't like (in her short life) was the Y childcare, and so I did my best to not take her there, respecting her. It seemed to me that if she made adjustments elsewhere, I shouldn't upset the balance. Am I disrespecting her by trying to see if she can do this? Is this a phase? If so, is there a good reason for it?

Now she is struggling to leave me at other "normal times".

I was wondering if this was impacting other times I am leaving her. But, I know right before school started, I had a babysitter twice (which is something we NEVER do - seriously - I had this girl come last August when DH was at the bridge 24/7 - other than that - I never used her). She really struggled with that. We were at my parents in mid August and she was really REALLY attached to me.

So is this just a phase? Is it just coinciding with the advent of a new school year? H1 and H2 are gone... I am busier? I go back to work (granted one day a week - and it is timed exactly when she is at school- so she would have to be somewhere anyway).

Now, this three time preschool mom, a "preschool age teacher",(that would be ME) - doesn't know what to do.